Pet Peeve and Big Trouble

Do you have a pet peeve, (something you strongly dislike) ?

Mine is artificial flowers.

My aversion to fake blooms once got me into big trouble and taught me a valuable lesson.

When we moved to the village we found that the local cemetery had not been carefully maintained. This seemed to be disrespectful to the faithful departed.

My husband and I approached the government, who graciously provided a $69,000 grant to beautify this sacred and historic space.

Eight part-time workers were hired, who planted grass, and flowers, and placed a beautiful granite bench.

We were hoping that people might come in, to rest for a while, and contemplate eternity.

We welcomed fresh flowers and plants at the sites, and I offered to plant little gardens at sites if family members would like these.

The workers complained that the bunches of artificial flowers placed on gravesites made mowing the sites more difficult. On windy days, they blew all around, and sometimes wires got caught in mowing equipment.

And so I suggested that they remove the counterfeit blooms and place them in the storage shed. We informed the community to pick them up if they wanted them.

The community was furious with us !!

They felt that we were outsiders, who had come in, and were telling them how to do things ! After this cultural blunder, we gave up our volunteer positions, and the fake flowers quickly re-appeared.

It is pride that makes us think that our opinions are best.

Indeed, our pet peeve might be someone else’s great joy.

Our pride can cause us to place our wishes above those of others, and relationships can suffer as a result.

May God, in his mercy, show us when our attitudes are prideful.

May He allow us to live in harmony with others.

30 thoughts on “Pet Peeve and Big Trouble

  1. Amen, Sally. Our personal preferences can easily turn into pride. Especially when questioned by others, who often have equally strong feelings.
    Your post reminds of of something one of our greatest US President’s said: “Remember, you’re just an extra in everyone else’s play.” Franklin Delano Roosevelt

    Your pieces never fail to make me think, Sally. God would have us live in harmony—with flowers fresh or fake.

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  2. A great post that I can relate to Sally. My pet peeve that immediately comes to mind is rudeness, particularly when I have held a door for someone only to be ignored. This has also landed me in trouble; the red mist descended once and I bit back with a sarcastic monologue “why thankyou…don’t mind me!” sort of thing, which stirred the anger of the individual. Like you in your story I also had time to reflect and repent of my pride.

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    1. It’s always a good idea to give a person the benefit of the doubt. When I don’t hear a “thank-you,” I try to assume the person is soft-spoken and I may have missed it. Or their minds are preoccupied with something more serious than the door. When I ask my husband a question and he seems to be ignoring me, I’ll ask, “Did you not hear me, or did I not hear you?” (Innocent until proven guilty is a good policy, and I’m a lot happier for it. 😉 )

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  3. Anita jokes that since I’ve hired a young man to mow our lawn after my last stroke in 2007, that we should get artificial turf! I’ve actually looked into it, but then decided against it when I thought I’d probably have to hire someone occasionally to vacuum it! 😂

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    1. I’m happy to hear that, Derrick. They are also banned where my parents are buried, but we tried to apply those same guidelines to rural Newfoundland, and we were met with opposition. Thanks 🤗

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  4. I’m picky about the quality or authenticity of certain things, too. Allergies finally forced us to get an artificial Christmas tree, and it has turned out to be more thrifty and less mess. I’ve realized that my “discriminating taste” CAN amount to snobbery – not a very attractive trait for a Christian. 😉

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    1. Yes, for sure, Annie. Definitely not an attractive trait for a Christian.
      God always, in his mercy, chooses to correct us when we are showing traits that are not pleasing to him. Thanks. 🤗

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  5. Oh my gosh. I busted out laughing when I read fake flowers were your pet peeve. I was just in Joanne’s craft store and there was a big sale on fake flowers. I know that there is a market for them, so I thought I’d check them out. I was shocked at the price. A little Baby rose was 5.99. A sprig of green 2.99. And the way they feel. I just don’t get it. It’s not a pet peeve of mine, but I don’t care much for them. I do a fake Christmas tree though. It makes more sense, and plus I don’t like seeing the tree graveyard the day after.

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    1. Hi !
      Those are high prices for expensive blooms.
      I agree with you about artificial Christmas trees. For sure, seeing a tree graveyard is sad, especially when they take long to grow, and help the environment. Thanks 🤗

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  6. My pet peeve is people touching my upper body especially men. It irritates me big time. At times its just a friendly gesture when having a funny conversation but I end being irritated. On that point of being fast to give opinions and insist they have to be followed I am a victim too and I have been intentionally working on listening more than I contribute.Thanks for sharing

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    1. I can understand how you would dislike having your upper body touched.
      This is an example of ‘unwanted touching’, and if that happened to me I would clearly tell the person that I don’t like this type of touch.

      We are entitled to set boundaries about what we will tolerate.
      Thanks, Cynthia. 🤗

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  7. My pet peeve is people being unkind and ungenerous with each other but plastic flowers come a close second. If people live nearby then fresh flowers says something very special. If, however, they live away, perhaps I should be kind and generous! Not easy

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  8. What a lesson to learn Sally! But a good one. I’m afraid that I also have been guilty of thinking that my preferences, ideas, or thoughts are the best. What presumption, and as you say what pride! Thanks for making us think!!

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    1. Hi Signora Sheila !
      Nice to hear from you.
      Yes, the Lord is always training all of us in more humility, following the example of Jesus. Thanks 🤗

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