Prayer at the A&W

Did your parents stress the importance of having good manners ?

Being polite makes life a little kinder for everyone.

It’s been swelteringly hot on our island this summer, so we travelled, in air conditioning , to a nearby town. We went to an A&W restaurant, and anticipated enjoying a root beer in an icy, frosted mug.

While we were sitting enjoying this refreshment, with some tasty sweet potato fries, four people came in, and sat at the next table.

They started talking….loudly.

It’s always polite to keep our conversation discreet in public places, for the consideration of others.

We also all know that it’s rude to eavesdrop, to purposely try to listen in to others’ conversations.

But, with my sensitive musician’s hearing, I was forced to hear what they were saying.

I was growing irritated, and looked around for another table to move to ( there were none), and then I fanticized about putting on my mask, going over to them, and assertively telling them to tone down their loud voices !

And then I realized what they were discussing. They were planning their mother’s funeral. Loudly, they were describing the flowers that they had just ordered from the florist’s. Red carnations…they had been their mom’s favourite.

One of the women was describing a photo she was going to display, the one at her mom’s birthday party.

Suddenly, my irritation shifted to compassion for my loud neighbours. They were mourning, and I re-experienced my feelings when I lost my own mom.

I began to pray silently for them, and, as I prayed, it seemed that their conversation quieted.

We know that our Lord places us exactly where he needs us, there are no co-incidences for Christ followers, only God-incidences.

I am continuing to pray for this family.

The Bible tells us to mourn with those who mourn. (Romans 12:15)

35 thoughts on “Prayer at the A&W

  1. Good post Sally, I have lost count of the times I become indignant with others in public only to be humbled by the Lord straight away. Such God-incidents are opportunities and lessons for us in our daily walk with Him. Thank you for sharing this Sally, God bless you sister.

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  2. This has happened to me too, Sally. I’ve gotten super irritated about something, only to learn that things were not as they seemed. I like your thought about β€œGod-incidences.” Christ is always at work. Our joy comes by joining in with Him. Blessings!

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  3. It is unfortunate that “my” generation, growing up in the 60s came up with the line, “If it’s too loud, you’re too old!”
    There IS some science behind this (, but it remains that many are hearing impaired without realizing it.
    I find it very difficult to be kind to loud-mouthed people, but Father uses blogs like yours to help me remember, He sees our hearts. Thanx, c.a. πŸ˜‰

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  4. I can relate. With my personality, the Lord has often put me a position where it was a chore to stay silent and not be a β€œbull in a china shop.” As I learned to be obedient and just listen and hold my temper, I found God would use me to be a blessing; a much more enjoyable lifestyle!

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  5. First impressions are often faulty and based on our preferences. It is a God moment when irritation turns to compassion and prayer. Lord, help me to see people through Your eyes because I often struggle to do so. Sally, thanks for the reminder! 🌺

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  6. I love the structure here: Our Father and Savior clearly used you to be a minister to the people at the table near you, but before He used you He made a change in your heart. How like Him?! You know, Mimonides set up a multilayer “levels of giving” chart with the very last level of giving being in a way where the giver, receiver, and all around see that the giver is giving. The second to last one is to give in such a way where the receiver does not know who the giver is, and the giver does not know who the receiver is. The first level involves giving in a way that teaches (which I believe has it’s own “levels of giving” chart. I do not know that I fully agree with his teachings there but, Sally, it is so refreshing to know that I am not alone in giving secretly so that The Father can reward openly.

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    1. Thanks so much for telling me about Maimonides. Actually, I had not heard of him, but I am studying his writings today. I agree with you, prayer for others is a secret giving, which The Father rewards. It is also a form of spiritual mercy. πŸ€—πŸŒ·πŸŒΌ


      1. He has a lot of names. Another one I believe is Rambam. He was a jewish teacher of Torah and one of those responsible for the absurdity that is today’s Talmud following Orthodox. Alas, though, much of what he taught is very insightful and helpful if one can keep their focus on The Lord Yeshua. Thanks for being so responsive. It feels good to read your posts.


  7. This is an interesting post to read (to see the situation from your perspective) because I’d say I’m one of those “loud-voiced” people.

    Since childhood, I’ve been told my voice is too loud. It can feel frustrating. I get louder as my emotion rises. It’s not intentional rudeness. I’ve practiced as an adult to keep my voice softer, but when passion or deep emotion comes into play, I still get too loud. I’ve struggled to accept this part of me, but God has reminded me over and over that he makes no mistakes.

    Would you believe that I’ve actually struggled to accept people of the opposite temperament? LOL. Sometimes, when I’m sharing deeply with someone, I get frustrated when they seem to have nothing to say in response. When they seem to have little emotion over the situation, I feel like they’re not really hearing me. But the thing is, they’re just quiet thinkers (rather than a verbal thinker, like me), and I have to learn to accept them as people who may never respond to what I say or maybe just need a few days to think it over first.

    We’re all made differently. Life would be boring if we weren’t. But grace, grace, grace! We all need the grace to accept those who are different than us. It doesn’t seem to come naturally, does it?

    Thank you, Jesus, that you’re always working on our hearts and helping us to see through your eyes.

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    1. For sure, Sarah, God creates us all differently, and then He gently trains us to recognize, and appreciate our differences.
      As you say, God loves variety, and may we constantly be amazed at His creativity.
      Thanks for your comment. πŸ€—πŸŒΌπŸŒ·

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  8. So true. SO many times i have been tempted to overreact to such people but The holy spirit always always shuts me up. May God teach us more and more kindness with one another. Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Thanks for sharing Sally.

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  9. That’s really very true.As followers of the Saviour we are marked with the grace of God hence we do exactly what the Lord wants it the way. He doesn’t allow us to remain in darkness rather he is quick in sending some spot light to open our inner eyes to different circumstances.Thank you very much for sharing it.πŸŒΉπŸ™πŸ˜Š

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    1. Thanks so much, Francis. Indeed, the Lord sends a ‘spot light’. Let us thank Him for his marvellous light. πŸ€—πŸŒ·πŸŒΌ


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