Illegal Looking

Can it be considered illegal to stare at someone ?

Under the Criminal Code of Canada , leering, or ogling, can be considered an offense.

This type of purposely staring at someone is considered a form of harassment.

Anyone who has been leered at knows how upsetting this behaviour can be.

When I was working on my Doctorate in Sociology, I lived in Toronto, Canada’s largest city.

I needed to travel on the subway, which was always packed, and which made me feel trapped and vulnerable. Also, there were sometimes men who leered at me.

It is difficult to prove a case of purposeful leering, as it is a situation of : ‘He said, she said.’

Oops ! I should have written ‘ They said, they said’ . We must be politically correct these days !

I just wish that I would have had a phone with a camera in those days, to photograph the leerers.

I’ve been thinking of these leering incidents lately, because of the recent tragic events in Afghanistan.

Like you, I’m praying for everyone there, especially the girls and women.

Yes, there’s a difference in gravity between being leered at, and being told what to wear, but these are part of a spectrum of harassment.

As a Sociologist, my work, along with the lobbying of many others, helped bring Affirmative Action Programmes to Ontario.

Jesus is a feminist. Both his first disciple, (Mary), and the person to whom He appeared first after his resurrection, (Mary Magdalene) were women.

Let us be careful how we look at others, for they can tell much from our expressions and demeanour.

‘There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male or female, for you are all one in Jesus Christ’. Galatians 3:28

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32 thoughts on “Illegal Looking

    1. So agreed, Derrick ! Pluralising persons negates their individuality.
      However, the current political silliness helps to further develop our sense of humour. πŸ˜„

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  1. I’m also praying for our troops and everyone in Afghanistan, especially the women and children. I read that 24 children from San Diego are there and haven’t been able to get to the airport.

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    1. It’s a sad issue that unites us all in prayer. And yes, we pray for the troops who are working in a difficult situation.
      There is great power in united prayer. πŸŒΌπŸ€—πŸŒ·

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  2. Without a doubt leering is firstly sinful and secondly offensive. Our behaviour towards others should be humble and loving, just like our Lord. Yet I cannot agree with you in referring to our Lord as a feminist, which is a historically modern term and ideology. The fact that our Lord treated all people with love and humility regardless of gender or station in life pre-dates any sociological idealogies. I am not aiming to offend anyone, this is just my sincere belief on this matter. May God bless you sister Sally!

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  3. Leering is rude. Terrorists are rude. One would say one is worse than another but sin is sin to God. As all people are equal, so are all sins. This makes God’s grace our most valued gift of all. We will all pray together for those who need grace to receive it, especially those needing out of Afghanistan.

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  4. I was once accused of staring at someone when I was at the library, but was actually in deep thought. It wasn’t till I was approached by a librarian who realized I wasn’t in fact staring. I felt bad bad that someone felt violated, it really wasn’t my intention πŸ˜•

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  5. Staring can be so rude and it is hard to prove as you say but can make someone so uncomfortable. It is truly a sad state of affairs in Afghanistan and I am praying for the women and children there.

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  6. Since we can’t read other people’s minds, it’s hard to know (for sure) what they are thinking. How about this approach? “Sir, I notice your are staring at me. It makes me uncomfortable.” Yes, it’s a bold move, but perhaps the guy was simply deep in thought, like someone else commented. If he was indeed leering, being confronted about this behavior might encourage him to change his ways.
    There are too many victims these days. More people should take charge of their own well being. For me, this is still a work in progress.

    Thank you for saying that Jesus valued women. It’s was the girls (except for John) who were with Him as He was crucified. All the ‘brave” men were nowhere to be found.

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    1. Thanks, David, that is an interesting suggestion, and perhaps I should have approached the people who were apparently leering.
      You are wise to say that we should confront the people whose behaviour makes us uncomfortable. For sure, as you say : ‘More people should take charge of their own well being.’ Blessings, and peace, always. πŸ€—πŸŒΌπŸŒ·

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      1. I’ve thought some more since commenting, Sally. If personal safety is a concern, it may be best to ignore the stares and say nothing. I addressed a principle that may not always be safe to practice.

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