A Nagging Wife ?

Did your parents give you wise advice on your wedding day ?

Before we left for the church, my loving father told me to let my husband be the leader in our marriage, and he told me never to nag him. And, he told me to be a good cook.

Good advice from my Daddy !

The Bible gives dismal descriptions of what it is like living with a contentious, or nagging wife. Proverbs 27:15 says that she is like ‘the dripping of a leaky roof in a rainstorm.’

It says that it would be better to live on the corner of a rooftop, or in the desert, than with a nagging wife. Proverbs 21: 9, 19. Yikes !

Of course, we also know that living with a contentious, argumentative husband would be no better.

My husband and I were required to take a marriage preparation course before we wed , and the need for careful communication was greatly emphasized.

After breakfast, when we feel refreshed, we pray, and then we discuss our plans for the day. We ask the Lord’s help with the challenges we will face.

If I have a request for my husband, I know that I will only need to ask him ONCE, because he ‘hears’ me. Similarly, I ‘hear’ what he communicates to me.

Therefore, neither of us has any need to make repeated requests, or ‘nag’.

A spouse who does not respond to a reasonable request made by their partner in a timely manner is sometimes guilty of passive-aggressive behaviour, which falls into the same category as being chronically late.

There are times that I know my husband appreciates when I don’t try to communicate with him. These are when he’s hungry, or tired, or driving, or focused on another activity.

When we were working, we didn’t talk for the first hour we arrived home, since we were exhausted from dealing with people all day long.

Let us pray that God will bless our communication. May He give us the grace to clearly hear and respond to our partners. In doing this we convey our respect for our beloved. Careful and considerate communication is a vital component of a happy marriage.

44 thoughts on “A Nagging Wife ?

  1. An important and instructive post Sally. My wife has permission to nag me, mainly because of my chronic memory and low concentration levels. Indeed I not only love her dearly, but I depend on her every day to keep me right many times. I am her carer for mobility, she is my carer for mental welfare – we make a great team.

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  2. Sound advice for having a good marriage. We had no counseling and both of us came from dysfunctional homes, so we had no examples to help us. This year in Oct. 55 years of marriage will be behind us. Some of those years, especially those without the Lord were rough. We were both only 17 when we married, way too young. Having the Lord in our life made such a difference.

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    1. Congratulations, and best wishes on 55 years of marriage, Betty. Yes, the Lord helps us. A godly marriage consists of a husband, a wife, and the Lord. ๐ŸŒท๐Ÿค—๐ŸŒผ

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    1. Thanks, Manu, so much. Yes, communication between a husband and a wife, and their communication with the Lord results in a happy marriage, and family. ๐Ÿค—๐ŸŒท๐ŸŒผ

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    1. Thanks, Tonya ! We have something else in common – we both loved our Daddies so much. We were blessed with godly fathers. ๐ŸŒท๐ŸŒผ๐Ÿค—

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    1. Thanks very kindly for your comment. May our Lord help us not to nag, since it never accomplishes anything.
      Peace and blessings to you ! ๐ŸŒผ๐Ÿค—๐ŸŒท

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    1. That is also very wise advice from your mom.
      Yes, when we marry, we marry into a family. I also honoured my in-laws and loved them very much.
      Thanks for your comment. ๐Ÿค—๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒท

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      1. You are very blessed. They are like our ‘second set of parents’, and we are very fortunate when we all get along well. It makes our husbands and our children happy too. ๐ŸŒผ๐Ÿค—

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    1. Thanks so much for this comment.
      Yes, this was our unspoken rule…quiet time helps to regain our emotional balance. ๐ŸŒผ๐Ÿค—๐ŸŒท

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  3. I love that your parents provided you with such wisdom. Unfortunately, I did not receive any advice from my parents and the advice they have given me over the years has been less than helpful.

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    1. Hi Wendi ! I am sorry that your parents were not able to give helpful advice. Hopefully there were other helpful friends who encouraged you.
      The Lord also offers all of us advice through His Word.
      Thanks for commenting. ๐Ÿค—๐ŸŒท๐ŸŒผ

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  4. Amen! I’m glad you pointed out the need to not be contentious or nag, but also the need for response from the other, when one spouse is trying to communicate.

    Sometimes, it seems some call it “nagging” because they just simply don’t want to be bothered with the issue at hand, ignore it, so their spouse asks again and maybe again.
    I like how you describe you and your husband; sounds like unity and cooperation with each other.
    ๐Ÿ’œ

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    1. Hi Petrina !
      Yes, exactly, as you say, sometimes a spouse doesn’t ‘want to be bothered with the issue at hand’.
      For sure, careful listening, and a considerate response is required from both partners. Thanks ๐Ÿค—๐ŸŒท๐ŸŒผ

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  5. Iโ€™m glad you brought up that a contentious husband isnโ€™t any better than a nagging wife. A healthy marriage takes a team effort: two committed people and God. Thank you for sharing your wisdom, Sally!

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    1. Thanks, David ! Yes, for sure, there are three in a healthy marriage – a husband, a wife, and God.
      Wouldn’t it be great if no one was contentious ? ๐Ÿค—๐ŸŒท

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  6. My husband and I got marriage counseling before we got married. Weโ€™re been married 5+ years so far and going strong.

    I disagree with a lot of things that my in-laws do thatโ€™s so drastically different than what my parents do. I clash a bit with them (I try to tolerate it for the most part) but itโ€™s true that we donโ€™t just marry our husbands – we marry into the family as well.

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    1. Hi Hilary !
      Congratulations on 5+ years of marriage.
      I would encourage you to patiently try to develop your relationship with your in-laws. Your family, especially your husband, will be blessed by this.
      I especially think that when their wives get along with their moms, husbands are happy.
      But, this is an ongoing process for many people.
      Nice to hear from you ! ๐Ÿค—๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒท

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  7. When a stupid man want to correct his nagging wife, he will tell her shut-up, but when a wise man want to correction his nagging wife, he tell her your mouth look beautiful when you close it_โ€Divine-Royaltyโ€ (speaking skill)

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