Incorrect ?

Do you think it’s important to be ‘politically correct’ these days ?

We may be considered to be ‘politically incorrect’ out here in our little outport, but we don’t care.

I was shocked when we first arrived, and a lovely young waitress brought my husband his dinner at a charming restaurant.

She said : ‘Here you are, my love’, as she set his plate down.

I glared at her ! I thought that she was being flirtatious with my husband, as he is very handsome, but this was not the case.

Everyone here calls each other words of endearment like : ‘my love, my darling, my dear, my honey, or occasionally, ‘sugar’.

Sometimes I am also called ‘my angel’.

This is the rural Newfoundland way, and it often surprises visitors that we speak to each other , and to strangers using these terms.

This is part of the genuine kindness and friendliness of rural Newfoundlanders.

However, I also warn our community members who are visiting mainland Canada never to call a stranger ‘my darling’. This would be considered seriously politically incorrect, and could cause trouble for sure.

As I researched this post, I found that, sure enough, a growing number of people live in a state of being ‘chronically offended’. When surveyed, people reported feeling demeaned and patronized if a stranger called them ‘my dear’. However, the endearments we regularly use around here are not influenced by whether or not they are politically correct. These terms are a longstanding part of our culture.

Life is slow-moving out here, and gentle. And yes, it’s true, many of us are not quite sure what ‘politically correct’ means, anyway.

I am happy to live in a place where people so kind. Our island’s official motto is Matthew 6:33 – ‘Seek Ye First the Kingdom of God’.

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59 thoughts on “Incorrect ?

  1. Sally, you are so right that people are β€œchronically offended.” It is exhausting trying to keep up with the pc world so I am just me. I don’t know how to be anyone else! It is not my intention to offend; however, I will not live in fear. Glad to hear about your town!

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  2. Oh how refreshing. I hope the rural Newfoundlanders stand strong with their endearments and don’t allow the ever shifting pc tide to touch them. I can’t help but wonder if the pc culture has only fed the wave of loneliness and purposelessness that is afflicting society. To hear words like “my dear, my angel, my love” speaks value and importance to a person.

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    1. Thank you Beth. Yes, I agree with your insights, there is indeed a ‘wave of loneliness and purposelessness that is afflicting society’.
      I am also hoping that we don’t let the pc culture affect our friendliness. βš˜πŸ€—

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  3. I hate political correctness. All it dies is separate up into packs. While I think we need to be sensitive to the feelings of others, we need to chill out about the little things

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  4. How wonderful! I call my family and friends “my love” or “honey” or “dear one” all the time… just has always been my way. I think it is beautiful to live where that is common. And “politically correct” has never sat right with me. Feels very mob controlling to me. Let people express themselves and be loving. If people are under a strong moral code God gave us, we will not say unwholesome words but lift each other up.πŸ˜ƒβ€

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  5. I call people ‘honey’ all the time..never anyone my age or older, but the younger people..it’s a southern-mommy thing. Never had anyone get mad..but of course that could change in these times..πŸ™„

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  6. Well, technically, your motto is “Quaerite Prime Regnum Dei.” πŸ˜‰ Unfortunately, most people, and I suspect even Newfoundlers, don’t know what that means. But kudos to those who know, and even more so to those who actually do so.
    I’m preparing a blog on ‘political correctness’ as here in the US, we are coming close to a point that following Jesus and taking the Bible literally is going to get us in hot water. Hmm, I wonder how Paul and Silas would react to that!? πŸ˜‡ (See Acts 16 for any readers who might not know.)

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    1. Wow ! That is excellent that you knew the official Latin for our motto. And, a few years ago, there was a lobby to change our motto, as it was no longer considered to be ‘politically correct’. But people, including me, protested, because we want to keep the motto.
      That’s great that you are preparing a blog on political correctness.
      Yes, for sure, we need to be alert that subtle persecution of our Christian beliefs is on the rise.
      Thanks so much for your comment. πŸ€—βš˜

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  7. I think such gestures towards each other are a wonderful thing. This reminds me of a former co-worker that called people “sugar”. We didn’t know each other well when she started addressing me that way and I certainly wasn’t used to being called anything to nice back then, so it startled me a bit at first. I didn’t quite know how to react. But, as it continued on and I observed her doing it with others, including our students, I realized the warmth and kindness she was including me in. What a beautiful thing it is to share His love and what a waste of time and energy to be weighed down by offense!

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    1. Hi ! I agree, for sure. I was also startled by people using endearments so frequently.
      So true, being easily offended is, as you say, a waste of time and energy.
      I can appreciate the warmth and kindness of your co-worker.
      Thanks for your comment. πŸ€—βš˜

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    1. Great that you went to Mt Pearl. That is quite near the Town of Paradise.πŸ€— (great name for a Town). Yes, the accent is unique for sure, and we are friendly folks.
      Thanks for your comment, and I’m glad you have good memories of NL. ⚘

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  8. I have also given up on trying to keep up with politically correct standards, which often gets me in trouble over stuff such as opening a door for a lady. I can relate to local terms of endearment/politeness; here in Fife “pal” or “mate” are common e.g. “cheers pal” or “you alright pal?” I remember in Stockton On Tees in England hearing the term “you alright flower?” All this highlights the beauty and intricacy of our Creator’s artful work.

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  9. What a great place. Thanks Sally. I think the vast majority of people don’t care for political correctness. It is an affront to liberty, free speech, and freedom in general. One wonders what force taught so many to be so thin-skinned and offended all the time. It appears as though the Golden Rule is not only under attack but has become illegal in many places and replaced by an inferior counterfeit. Thanks again for a refreshing post. The tide is turning…

    Blessings

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    1. Hi RJ !
      Yes, I agree : ‘the Golden Rule is not only under attack but has become illegal in many places and replaced by an inferior counterfeit.’
      It is puzzling why so many people have become easily offended.
      Thanks for your insightful comment. πŸ€—

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  10. Hi Sally,
    I enjoyed your post and wholeheartedly agree. I would not purposely offend someone (well, unless it was good for their well being and it was the loving thing to do), but I refuse to participate in the PC merry-go-round of do’s and don’ts that is dragging the world into a morass. I can’t tip toe through the tulips of “tolerance”; a steady walk and a steady gaze are what I want to be about.

    Jesus said it well when he said in Matthew 11 verses 16 and 17, “But to what shall I compare this generation? It is like children sitting in the market places, who call out to the other children,Β and say, ‘We played the flute for you, and you did not dance; we sang a dirge, and you did not mourn.’Β 

    It’s a childish game that is really a not-so-subtle power play with a decidedly anti-Christian agenda. If we reflect Christ we can expect this generation to treat us like his generation treated him.
    Stay strong and God bless!
    Craig

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    1. Hi Craig !
      Thanks so much for this comment. I like the expression ‘tip toe through the tulips of ‘tolerance’. πŸ˜„
      Yes, for sure, the PC agenda is a childish game, with a power play at heart.

      Yes, you are right, as we reflect Christ, we can indeed expect to be treated by the world just as He was.

      Our Lord warned us that following Him would have a cost. As you say, let us continue keeping our eyes on our Lord, and maintaining our ‘steady gaze ‘.
      Let us also pray for those who are distracted by the PC merry-go-round, and those whose goal is to distract, confuse, and divide.

      Blessings to you as well. 🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷 (tulips) πŸ€—

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  11. “I am happy to live in a place where people so kind. Our island’s official motto is Matthew 6:33 – β€˜Seek Ye First the Kingdom of God’.” That’s so cool! πŸ™‚

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    1. Hi Mark ! As you can appreciate, there are those islanders out here who are complaining that our motto is no longer PC.

      But, thus far, our motto remains.
      Thanks for your comment. πŸ€—πŸŒ·βš˜

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  12. For me it depends on the situation. I agree that the political correctness thing can go too far. In the midwestern part of the U.S. where I live, we have a ton of restaurant staff who call everyone “sweetie” and “honey.” And usually I’m fine with it as long as that’s the way they approach everyone. I really hate it, though, when someone calls the younger adults at the table “Ma’am” or “Sir” and then make an exception for the elderly person in a wheelchair who gets called some ghastly patronizing thing like “twinkletoes.” It used to drive me nuts when Dad was alive. Like, when did he lose the right to be called “sir” like everyone else? Oh, and then, they’d turn to me and ask, “What does he want?” Really? I’d say, “Why don’t you ask him? Oh, and the proper form of address for my father is ‘sir.'” It wasn’t the form of address per se, it was the lack of respect for the elders. Okay, end of rant.

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    1. But mostly I agree with you about the political correctness thing. I worked in human services for 20 years before I retired, and people would argue for 45 minutes over whether to call the people who received our services “clients” or “program participants.” And I’d be thinking, “As long as you understand this person is a human being, you should be safe. If you don’t understand this, no ‘politically correct’ term is going to help.”

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  13. Wow! That’s a great motto. Matthew 6:33 is my family’s motto❀ In the Nigerian culture, only the elderly use endearing words. It is culturally inappropriate for younger people to address the elderly with endearing words.

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  14. Sometimes I think we are as offended as we choose to be. There are so many times when something said can be taken more than one way. When I started praying for a thicker hide and a more tender heart, God showed me He was answering that prayer when two friends called me to apologize for things they had said – things I remember their saying but don’t remember being offended by. (Halleluia!)

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    1. Thanks, Annie. I really agree with you.
      Christians should be known as people who do not take offense easily.

      May He grant all of us a thicker hide and a more tender heart. πŸ€—βš˜

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