Do you agree with me that sometimes organizations can be too friendly ?
I recently attended a new church, that I thought I might join.
The pastor and his wife both greeted me with tight hugs when I came in. Six ladies were preparing a nice breakfast, and when they saw me they all came over and hugged me tightly too.
During the church service the pastor encouraged everyone to greet each other, and everyone hugged each other again.
At the end of the service, the pastor and his wife both gave me ‘warm’ hugs.
How did I feel after all this hugging ? I felt afraid, and vowed never to visit that church again.
I should explain. I am a trauma survivor, and many trauma survivors find being hugged by strangers overly intimidating and a violation of their personal space.
Generally, of course, among intimate friends and family members, hugs are healing.
We need to be aware that not everyone is comfortable with being hugged by a stranger.
I much prefer the Oriental and Indian custom of people giving each other a small bow as a form of greeting.
Pictured is our backyard after Newfoundland’s recent storm of the Century.