Susan Suffers From “I-itis”

True friends are God’s gifts to us, and the Bible tells us to choose our friends wisely.

When we moved to the seaside, I met Susan, a pleasant woman, and thinking we might become friends, I invited her to tea at Mifflin’s, our award winning tea room.

Our visit started pleasantly, but within ten minutes I was aware that Susan suffers from ” I- itis” . This is a word that I made up to describe a condition suffered by people who are self-absorbed. This condition can also be called : ‘ inflammation of the ego’.

Susan chattered on about her husband ‘s cousin’s recent eye surgery, how her Aunt’s cat recently had a fight with a neighbourhood stray, and proudly announced that her youngest grandchild now has six teeth.

Susan was unaware of my body language, how my eyes were turning glossy, and how I kept lunging forward in my seat with my mouth open, trying to say something. Apparently Susan thought monologue and conversation had the same meaning.

We finished our tea, and I, exhaustedly , went home to have a nap.

By God’s grace, I developed several close friendships here on the island. However, Susan and I remain acquaintences. Do you know anyone who currently suffers from ” I-itis” ?

18 thoughts on “Susan Suffers From “I-itis”

  1. This reminded me of a woman who lived across the street from us in our previous neighborhood for 22 years. She was a non-stop talker and literally would not allow anyone to get a word in edgewise. I also have a long-standing friend who became psychologically unglued when his marriage fell apart. Every get together turned into 3 or 4 or 5 hours of β€œwoe is me” venting. He saw a counselor for a short time but concluded friends were cheaper.

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    1. Yes, I avoid him for two reasons; I’m not a counselor trained in mental illness and I feel like I need a counselor after engaging him.


  2. Had a friend who would always talk non-stop about herself and her situation in life and viewed everything with a glass half empty attitude, so it was kinda of depressing talking to her and it was exhausting for me. I just could not be friends even though I tried.

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    1. Yes, I agree with you. In true friendships, people enjoy being able to share their experiences and feelings openly and honestly. Friends enjoy talking to each other, and they know that their friend is truly listening when they speak.

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  3. I usually give people like that a chance, because maybe they were nervous and a bit rambly. It happens. But if it keeps happening, then there can’t really be a friendship. It has to be a two-way conversation and mutual interest for the friendship to grow.

    I hope things get better for you and Susan! God bless πŸ™‚

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    1. Yes, Yari, you are right, sometimes people can be a bit nervous and rambly at first. But, as you say, it needs to be a two-way conversation, and our words exchanged with friends ideally nourish us and bring glory to God. πŸ˜„

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  4. A confirming message, that makes me full of desire. I am praying for a friend, or friends, that is a good balance between their own self, and my own self – so that together, we can become the one “self” that brings God joy.

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  5. We learn every day. I never knew that was a condition. I have one person that does that and he’s very close to me. I feel muted whenever he chatters non-stop without pausing to hear my own opinion. And yet at the end of 20 minutes talk to himself, he would ask, “why ain’t you saying anything?”

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  6. β—‡ This applies to AnyOne who Swore NEVER!!! to be Their FUCKING!!! Parents and then Became Their Parents πŸ˜†πŸ˜…πŸ˜„πŸ˜ƒπŸ˜‚πŸ˜πŸ˜€πŸ˜‰πŸ˜Š; it’s Funny Really that The Most GAH!!! (Genuine Authentic Honest with The Exclamation Marks Representing The Frustration of FFF (Fake, False, Fraudulent)) amongst Us Telling EveryOne Who is Willing to Listen Exactly How We Feel then Actively Listening to Them because We Have Been Heard instead of The Other just waiting to SAY THEIR PIECE!!! and NOT!!! Paying Even The Slightest Attention; in One Ear and Out The Other EveryOne πŸ˜”


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  7. My neighbourhood aunt. (She is not my relative, we call everyone aunt, uncle, brother, or sister)
    If you tell her your son’s attempted high academic exam, she will start telling you the uncountable academic achievements of her family with equally great grades. Just show her your favourite make up brand and she will tell you her nieces using this brand when it was first introduced.
    I can’t talk about her much, but I’m sure these kinds of people need some psychotic attention.

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    1. β—‡ It’s Crystal Clear Clarity that “psychotic” projects psychosis and doesn’t like it when Hypocrisy is UnVeiled EveryOne; it’s also Crystal Clear Clarity that I AM Grateful I AM Far Away from “psychotics” otherwise One of Us Would Be Returned to Bliss aka Dead


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  8. β™‘ Funny Really how We ALL Deny Our NEED!!! to be Heard while Criticising Others for TALKING TOO MUCH!!! 😠 ; and then Follow On with “I AM NOT!!! Angry” πŸ˜–πŸ˜§πŸ˜‘ … πŸ˜†πŸ˜…πŸ˜„πŸ˜ƒπŸ˜‚πŸ˜πŸ˜€πŸ˜‰πŸ˜Š ; I WILL!!! Stop Laughing At You when You Start Laughing With Me, The Cosmic Joke


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